Ladder mode
Build your ladder. Ten questions, ten conversations.
Ladder mode is the way to read this site if you have ten separate exchanges ahead of you and you want them paced. The builder asks three small questions, then assembles ten rungs from the curated library: light first, deep last, with a one-line note on why each rung sits where it does.
The web ladder is ten rungs. The eventual cluster app holds longer paced sequences (twenty, thirty, fifty rungs) plus shuffle and save. This page is the web prototype of that feature, built from the same prompts that live on the moment pages.
One rung per conversation. Never stack three. Let the silence between exchanges be part of the ladder.
Where are you with this person?
Pick the closest. The ladder paces differently for each.
How this is paced
Every prompt in the library has been hand-tagged with a depth weight, from one (a light specific-to-them opener) to five (an edge-of-vulnerability prompt that should only land after the rest of the ladder has earned it). The builder reads your three answers, narrows the candidate Packs (the moment pages this site is organised around), and picks ten rungs across the depth range, light first.
The rule the builder respects: never more than two rungs from the same Pack section. The point is variety, so the ladder feels like a real conversation arc, not a repeated theme.
The "why this rung" note under each prompt tells you what the rung is doing. A rung at depth one is an opener. A rung at depth three is a story-inviting prompt that earns a longer reply because the thread above it has earned it. A rung at depth five is the deep one, used once and let-sit.
If your three answers do not need the deepest rungs (a "just texting" ladder for someone you have not met in person), the builder weights the ladder toward the lighter end and leaves the depth-five rungs out. If your answers ask for it (a "deep but undefined" ladder), the top of the ladder is the harder prompts.
What ladder mode is not
It is not a script. The rungs are prompts; the conversation around them is yours. The ladder is paced for ten conversations with sensible silences between them, not ten messages in one evening.
It is not a guarantee. Asking the right rung at the right moment surfaces compatibility. It does not engineer attraction. The how to use these prompts page covers the technique notes that the ladder does not replace.
It is not a substitute for reading the room. If a rung lands wrong, drop it; the willingness to drop a question is the signal of safety the next rung needs.